***Disclaimer: I am a speaker at heart! These notes are either transcripts of the podcast or notes I made in preparation. For The Stress Club study, it will mostly be bullets with page numbers. Since you have the option to get the book free (details in episode), you'll be able to follow! Please forgive the inevitable grammar errors 😘
Welcome friend to Consider Yourself Hugged episode 61: Today’s Hug: Session 2 – Stress Club Study for Women I’m Not Mad! Click here or pic to listen.
I’m Dr. Tami West, here every week to bring you tips on living a life that brings you mental and emotional wellbeing.
Ch. 3: I’m NOT MAD!
1. How would you describe the concept of language?
2. Give an example of Discursive Psychology operating in your life.
Last week we laid the foundation and talked about the happiness formula and the importance of choices. That’s what the rest of this book is about, choices.
Remember, this book and study is not about what stresses you out, how you feel when you are stressed, managing stress,. It is about the concept of how women talk about stress.
This chapter, if you really grab onto it and adopt it, can change your life in many areas, not just stress. I can almost guarantee you that you have never heard of the field of Critical Discursive Psychology. But you are about to!
Remember yesterday I talked about noticing. Just wait till you have kids! Must be nice!
Why talk this way? Competition? Martyrdom? It's much deeper than that!
We tend to think of language as insights into minds. What we think. What we feel.
Let’s set the stage for Are you mad?
CDP allows us to ask what action occurs when we say that and don't mean it, instead of how feeling or thinking.
Talk is purposeful.
How does it work? For any given topic, there are ways in which we talk. Topics could be marriage, football, politics, anything. Let’s use something timely as an example, and we’ll talk about stress a bit and more as we move along in the study.
Topic: Our current personal appearance/hygiene/makeup/hair.
1. Interpretative Repertoires p. 38 Margaret Wetherell
For any given topic there are word choices, or themes.
Fo4 personal appearance, up until March-ish, I would say the themes or word choices would revolve around beauty, professionalism, pride, designers, style,
TODAY!! Look at memes on social media; It’s about not necessary, overrated, personal style, cozy, survival
2. Subject positions
THESE are the identities we create when we talk. ‘
Using the themes at hand, we position ourselves in the conversation.
Again, prior to Marchish, the identities involving personal appearance might be wealthy, powerful, attractive, professional, stylish.
TODAY!! Could still be those things but it could also be “like you” or “frugal” or “funny”
A sticker was posted on Facebook, and here were a few of the replies:
Always have 3-times a day ever sense I was 10 years old and now 54 years old.
I feel like the girl from Saturday night live, when she puts her hands under her armpits, then smells them. That's my shower barometer
3. Ideological dilemmas
Remember there are word choices and in single or multiple conversations, some are riskier than others.
To end read Alice p. 41
And sadly, as always, that’s our time for today. I am praying every day for our country, our leaders, everyone’s roles, and people affected. I hope you’ll join me in doing that AND in staying mentally and emotionally healthy.
As always, Please pass the show link along to a friend or two and subscribe, download, and review wherever you are listening. And head over to tamiwest.com to get info if you’d like me to speak at your next event and also you’ll find the promised links and info. And I’d love for you to follow me on Facebook and all those other crazy social media outlets; links are in the show notes. If you’re a woman and you haven’t joined my private FB group The Stress Club, please do that now! It’ll be your daily sources for exiting the life of stress! Link is in the show notes
Thank you so much for listening and growing our special community!
I pray that each day you remember to love, to serve, to feel worthy, to grow, to connect, to change, and to be the best person you can be for yourself AND for the other humans in your world!
And until next time, Consider Yourself Hugged 😘🤗