No Apologies: How to Respond When Rest Gets Judged
- Tami West, PhD
- Sep 18
- 3 min read
Meet Ginger. During my study, we were talking about sleep, and said this:
“I do have to get enough sleep, I know that about myself. But I don’t take naps, and I don’t rest on the weekends and stuff.”
So what’s up with that?? The disclaimer? That’s the Stress Club talking. Because when you’re in the club, if you take care of yourself, you feel like you have to explain. Otherwise, it’s like someone stamps “invalid” on your forehead.
And here’s what Ginger is probably preparing for: somebody saying, “Wow, I wish I could do that.” She’s already bracing for judgment, so she explains ahead of time-just to keep her spot in the club.
But exiting the Stress Club means becoming a little bit of a rebel. It means saying, “Heck no. I don’t owe anyone an apology or an explanation for taking care of my body, my mind, or my spirit.”
So what do you say when someone hits you with, “Wish I could do that”? I’ve put the responses together in a free download, along with Must be nice and Wait till you have kids. Stay tuned for more.
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Love & Hugs,
Tami
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Stress and Mental Health Expert Dr. Tami West uses her entertaining and compelling style to shine a new light on how to transform your life and discover solutions to life’s challenges.
Tami has worked in a variety of industries including healthcare, school nutrition, corporate sales, and 10 years as a public-school teacher. In 2013 she received her PhD in Human Development, studying the connections among stress, emotions, and identity.
Dr. West has spoken in 48 states across the US, as well as the United Kingdom, Australia, and New Zealand. In any given year, Tami speaks to groups with audiences consisting of anywhere from 100 to 3,000 people.
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