Codependency: If you are OK, I'm OK... Or Am I?
The If you are ok, I’m Ok Narrative and The Impact on Mental Health
-Codependency definition: Being the caretaker of other’s emotion. This often occurs for your own sense of peace just as much as theirs. “If you are ok then I am ok”
-Many of us were born as caretakers but boundaries are essential in maintaining our own mental health while caring for others.
Questions to ask yourself?
-Does caretaking come from past hurts or a place of healthy boundaries and understanding?
-Does your caretaking enable others to continue in dysfunctional and unproductive behavior?
Does caretaking often come at the expense of your own mental and physical health?
Resources for Healing from Codependency and Enabling
Adult Children of Acoholics and Dysfunctional Families
Having a tribe of people around you who love for accountability is Key
Other Mental Health Resources National Alliance of Mental Illness
Mental Health First Aid Resources
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