Welcome friends to Consider Yourself Hugged episode 33. Today’s Hug: Our Inner Critics Are Winning! Why, and How to Get a Grip. (Click here to listen).
I’m Dr. Tami West, here every week to bring you tips on living a life that brings you mental and emotional wellbeing.
During this episode, I'll first share my busy 2 week schedule, all good stuff! So what’s the problem? Well I knew that I was feeling some tension and was actually having some chest pains and tightness in my chest. I finally realized I was having anxiety attacks in the middle of the night. I’m always very transparent and let everyone know that even though I consider myself recovered from my serious bouts with anxiety, I still have that tendency I work very hard to control it. Sometimes it rears its ugly head.
As I’m working through this, other people shared SO much with me about their struggles, and I remembered a book I read years ago. I will definitely find a counselor and start working through my challenges, but this helped me so much and I want to share it with you. The book is called Self-Esteem by Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning. (Click here or pic to order).
From this book, I'll cover 3 points:
1. First, I'll explain a concept that was SO new to me! It’s the concept of the variable ratio reinforcement schedule as it relates to your inner critic.
2. Second, I'll describe how your inner critic gets reinforced.
3. Finally, I'll give you 3 quick ideas on how to begin getting rid of it.
And that’s our time for today. I hope your learned something today that will help you at least begin to stop the negative self talk! Please pass the show link along to a friend or two. Look around here at tamiwest.com to get info if you’d like me to speak at your next event.
The monthly giveaway will come from leaving a comment here on the show notes so be sure to do that. It’s still a CYH mug, which I know you’ll love. And thank you all for listening – our community is continuing to grow every single week!
Finally, remembering our mental & emotional wellbeing goal, I hope that you will renew your thoughts daily, adopt empowering language that prevents verbal harm to yourself and others, and make positive mental and emotional choices on a daily basis.
And until next time, Consider Yourself Hugged 😘🤗