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Emotional Maturity: Part I

Welcome back to Consider Yourself Hugged! Click here to listen to Episode 154. OR click YouTube below to watch! (***Disclaimer: We provide these notes as a skeleton for the show - nothing fancy 😄)

Diving into February, a month that often conjures images of romance, I find myself leaning towards a different theme: emotional maturity. This isn't inspired by Valentine's Day but rather by a recent experience and an AI-generated image I shared on my Facebook page.


My desire to delve into emotional maturity was actually sparked by a recent incident that brought to light the importance of understanding and managing our emotions. This incident reminded me of the complexities of our emotional responses and the impact they have on our interactions. Click here to listen.


Emotional maturity, a topic I realized I hadn't explored in depth for some time, is crucial for navigating life's ups and downs. It involves understanding our feelings, how we express them, and how we relate to others.


Reflecting on my own growth since that incident, I recognize the shift in my emotional responses. Where once I might have reacted with frustration or confusion, I now approach such situations with empathy and a deeper understanding of the underlying struggles.


This journey towards emotional maturity is ongoing and deeply personal. It's about developing self-awareness, learning to regulate our emotions, and improving our interactions with others. I hope you’ll join me for a few weeks to explore the crazy world of emotions!


We’ll start with a self-assessment (you can download below).


Emotional Maturity Quiz
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Then, we'll dive in to 10 hallmarks of emotional maturity. As a preview, here they are:

1. Self-Awareness: It all starts with the man or woman in the mirror. Knowing your emotional ins and outs, what ticks you off, what makes you tick, and how you ripple into the world around you.


2. Self-Regulation: Ever felt like a soda can, shaken and ready to burst? We'll talk about keeping the lid on, not by bottling things up, but by managing reactions in a way that serves us better.


3. Empathy: Walking a mile in someone else's shoes, feeling their joy, their pain, without judgment or agenda. It's about connection, understanding, and sometimes, just being there.


4. Responsibility: Owning up to our part in life's play, not in a blame-game way, but with a mature acceptance of our role in the events and outcomes of our lives.


5. Adaptability: Life's a dance, and the music changes often. We'll explore how to sway with grace, pivot with purpose, and maybe even enjoy the rhythm changes.


6. Resilience: When life knocks us down, do we bounce back or crack? We're talking about cultivating a bounce-back spirit that sees setbacks as setups for comebacks.


7. Effective Communication: Ever lost in translation, even in your native tongue? We're diving into how to express what's really going on inside, in a way that's heard, understood, and respected.


8. Conflict Resolution: Not every disagreement needs to end in a duel. Sometimes, it's about finding common ground, agreeing to disagree, or even turning conflicts into opportunities for growth.


9. Realistic Optimism: Keeping hope alive without living in La La Land. We're balancing dreams with reality, positivity with pragmatism.


10. Healthy Relationships: The people we surround ourselves with can lift us up or weigh us down. We'll look at nurturing bonds that are enriching, energizing, and genuinely reciprocal.


I’ll share insights, experiences, and strategies for fostering emotional growth, all aimed at helping you navigate life with greater resilience and understanding!


OK let’s go! Together, let's embark on this exploration, ready to embrace the challenges and opportunities that lie ahead in our journey towards emotional maturity.


The information in this show is not intended to be therapy or to address your individual situation. It is information based on my experiences, opinions, and research. If you need further help, please reach out to one of the resources here:

Mental Health Resources: National Alliance of Mental Illness

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Tami West, PhD

Stress and Mental Health Expert Dr. Tami West uses her entertaining and compelling style to shine a new light on how to transform your life and discover solutions to life’s challenges.

Tami has worked in a variety of industries including healthcare, school nutrition, corporate sales, and 10 years as a public-school teacher. In 2013 she received her PhD in Human Development, studying the connections among stress, emotions, and identity.

Dr. West has spoken in 48 states across the US, as well as the United Kingdom, Australia, and New Zealand. In any given year, Tami speaks to groups with audiences consisting of anywhere from 100 to 3,000 people.

Dr. West is the author of several successful publications including three books: The Stress Club, Life Without the Monsters and Thrive. When she's not speaking or writing, you might find her with her traveling with her husband and family, reading historical fiction, or watching Big Bang Theory.

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