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Women, Religion & Stress

Women, Religion & Stress

A while back, Tim and I were watching a television segment about a US company sponsoring celebrations of Hispanic culture, especially food.  He mentioned there are holidays and celebrations for Latin Americans, African Americans, women, etc.  “Where’s the celebration of the white man?” he joked (seriously – joking!).  At first the conversation was lighthearted and comical.  It soon became more serious as I asked him the question, “describe for me a time when you’ve been treated as inferior just because you are a white male.”  He could not.  I went on to explain a few of the many times I have been treated as less than because I am a woman, and that sometimes the reason for that treatment is based on a Biblical interpretation.

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In 2006, I wrote my first book, Life Without the Monsters to provide support to women dealing with anxiety, fear, stress, and depression.  Because much of my healing from stress and anxiety came from Biblical support, I included Scripture-based advice and activities. I researched a great deal before writing, examining religion, psychology, and science.  Since then, I have traveled around the world speaking to women about stress, emotions, communication, and conflict.  Often I’m brought in as a female motivational speaker, sometimes as a trainer, and sometimes as a speaker for women’s church retreats. The point is, lots of women in lots of different settings. I’ve noticed 2 important trends.  First, women in church often express guilt over taking medication or refuse to admit they have too much stress because it means they “don't have faith.”  Second, in business seminars, many confide that being raised in religion has caused them to be riddled with guilt for falling short of fulfilling the roles assigned to women.  This leads me to believe there is a disconnect somewhere.  Biblical advice does not seem to be helping American women, and it should.

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JUN
06
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Why Do We Judge?

Why Do We Judge?

You’re walking through the grocery store and you see a woman with 6” heels, a low-cut dress, hair all done up, perfect make-up, and accessories.  Come on, you think – accessories! Dressed up? In a grocery store?!

If you’re with another women, well then, it’s on! You don’t just think it – you might even say it!

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APR
21
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Confessions Of A Disorganized Traveler

 
No wifi on today's 1st flt so I had to just think. 6 am too early to read.

Here's what came to me:

By all accounts I shouldn't even leave the house each day, much less travel IMG 5956around the country. You'd think after 11 years of intense travel I'd have it down pat. You know - a system that works. But no. 

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MAR
30
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Mom Part 3: The Worst Parts

 

Warning:  My sister and I agreed that sharing pictures is the best way to emphasize the transformation that took place in our mother.  If her life cannot be helpful to others, then it makes it hard to find a place in our hearts and minds to deal with these memories.  So please know our intent is not to dishonor her memory but rather to honor it.  Onward. 

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FEB
17
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Losing Mom Part 2: The Letters

Never in a million years did I think I’d be speaking at my mother’s memorial service, and yet here I was.  We (the family) had decided it was best to do the service without a pastor or priest. My children spoke first, and then I was up.  I was SO nervous as I read this (Forgive grammar/punctuation. It wasn’t meant for print):

I wrote on Facebook that our mom’s death was wonderful & awful & perfect & scary.  Today I want to focus on the wonderful & perfect.  But I have to include some of the awful and scary because our mom was a walking miracle.  She was an example of hope and answers to prayer.  She was the epitome of what relationships can do in the life of a woman who had given up. 

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Guest — Diane Carden
Tami, I'm following your posts. I know it must be rough, but also healing writing about the process. Also I'm so sorry about the h... Read More
Saturday, 18 February 2017 2:02 AM
Tami West
Sorry it took me so long to reply Diane - website glitches!! I'll pray for you and your mom. I'm traveling this week, so lots of... Read More
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