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All Women Hide Things

Or do we? My husband Tim showed this news story to me this morning (Click here for story). Since he's a photographer he gets this in his newsfeed. Of course, this is AWFUL and those of us who have ever been bullied can identify and feel her pain. I want to mention something very specific she says: "You never know what somebody's going through." Stay with me for a minute. Screen Shot 2017 01 08 at 9.05.38 AM

Here's a similar quote from Mishae, one of the women in my study: "No matter how blessed they look from the outside, like when you get to be close with them and you really see everything, you're like usually shocked." Here's where it gets deep: Mishae's reply was based on a scenario I presented in our

interview. It's about a woman named Samantha who loves her life - works part-time, has a flexible schedule, great boss & co-workers, and a devoted husband. Most of the women in my study were pretty upset with Samantha, saying she lived in a fantasy land or a dreamworld. Many believed that she was hiding something or tragedy would come soon.

What to do with this? Breana (photographer) uses that phrase in a particular way: Be kind to each other. Don't say hurtful things that might push someone over the edges. Don't make assumptions about others' lives. Words to live by!! Wouldn't the world be a better place if we all did?

Mishae, and the other women in my study, also had those intentions, but there was more. There's this unspoken assumption that we women aren't supposed to be happy. That life is not supposed to be good. That no one has a good job AND a supportive spouse! No way. And if a woman says this, she's lying. She's hiding something. The horrible part of this is that we don't even realize this doesn't have to be true!

What IS true is that we often feel like we have to hide happiness. Because if we're happy and everyone else isn't, we're out of the club. How crazy is that? I'm here to say we gotta stop that! Of course we get in seasons of life that are tougher than others. And sometimes tragedy happens. But I'm saying, as daily life goes, we should strive for peace and happiness and then talk about it - don't hide it! Eventually we'll start a revolution of loving life. I'll start, and I'd love for you to comment as well - on Facebook or here on the blog:

I love it when I work from home - sometimes I don't even get out of my pj's!

Your turn :)


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